How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen: A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7
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Summary
Over 200，000 copies in print！
A must-have guide for anyone who lives or works with young kids， with an introduction by Adele Faber， coauthor of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk， the international mega-bestseller The Boston Globe dubbed “The Parenting Bible。”
For nearly forty years， parents have turned to How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk for its respectful and effective solutions to the unending challenges of raising children。 Now， in response to growing demand， Adele’s daughter， Joanna Faber， along with Julie King， tailor How to Talk’s powerful communication skills to parents of children ages two to seven。
Faber and King， each a parenting expert in her own right， share their wisdom accumulated over years of conducting How To Talk workshops with parents， teachers， and pediatricians。 With a lively combination of storytelling， cartoons， and observations from their workshops， they provide concrete tools and tips that will transform your relationship with the children in your life。
What do you do with a little kid who…won’t brush her teeth…screams in his car seat…pinches the baby。。。refuses to eat vegetables…throws books in the library。。。runs rampant in the supermarket？ Organized by common challenges and conflicts， this book is an essential manual of communication strategies， including a chapter that addresses the special needs of children with sensory processing and autism spectrum disorders。
This user-friendly guide will empower parents and caregivers of young children to forge rewarding， joyful relationships with terrible two-year-olds， truculent three-year-olds， ferocious four-year-olds， foolhardy five-year-olds， self-centered six-year-olds， and the occasional semi-civilized seven-year-old。 And， it will help little kids grow into self-reliant big kids who are cooperative and connected to their parents， teachers， siblings， and peers。
A must-have guide for anyone who lives or works with young kids， with an introduction by Adele Faber， coauthor of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk， the international mega-bestseller The Boston Globe dubbed “The Parenting Bible。”
For nearly forty years， parents have turned to How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk for its respectful and effective solutions to the unending challenges of raising children。 Now， in response to growing demand， Adele’s daughter， Joanna Faber， along with Julie King， tailor How to Talk’s powerful communication skills to parents of children ages two to seven。
Faber and King， each a parenting expert in her own right， share their wisdom accumulated over years of conducting How To Talk workshops with parents， teachers， and pediatricians。 With a lively combination of storytelling， cartoons， and observations from their workshops， they provide concrete tools and tips that will transform your relationship with the children in your life。
What do you do with a little kid who…won’t brush her teeth…screams in his car seat…pinches the baby。。。refuses to eat vegetables…throws books in the library。。。runs rampant in the supermarket？ Organized by common challenges and conflicts， this book is an essential manual of communication strategies， including a chapter that addresses the special needs of children with sensory processing and autism spectrum disorders。
This user-friendly guide will empower parents and caregivers of young children to forge rewarding， joyful relationships with terrible two-year-olds， truculent three-year-olds， ferocious four-year-olds， foolhardy five-year-olds， self-centered six-year-olds， and the occasional semi-civilized seven-year-old。 And， it will help little kids grow into self-reliant big kids who are cooperative and connected to their parents， teachers， siblings， and peers。
Reviews
Mandy Patel
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Really excellent tips and tools to use with little kids。 I certainly don't have ALL the answers after reading， but feel a little less alone navigating the often treacherous waters of parenting a toddler。 Really excellent tips and tools to use with little kids。 I certainly don't have ALL the answers after reading， but feel a little less alone navigating the often treacherous waters of parenting a toddler。 。。。more
Liling Tan
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I picked this book as I thought it will be sufficiently light-hearted to accompany my lab work。 Turns out it is， and I now know why people with kids sometimes say that having kids helped their career and personal growth。 While this book focuses on tactics for parents to deal with young kids， I find that several techniques can be generalised for dealing with adults as well。 For instance， acknowledging feelings can be useful when dealing with an upset spouse。 Perhaps it is the case that my spouse I picked this book as I thought it will be sufficiently light-hearted to accompany my lab work。 Turns out it is， and I now know why people with kids sometimes say that having kids helped their career and personal growth。 While this book focuses on tactics for parents to deal with young kids， I find that several techniques can be generalised for dealing with adults as well。 For instance， acknowledging feelings can be useful when dealing with an upset spouse。 Perhaps it is the case that my spouse still has a child in him， but I find that it is because many techniques shared in this book appeal to the human instinct， and are useful on people， regardless of age。 Dealing with adults in our everyday life is hard， dealing with children is even harder。 Although this book scares me sometimes， I am overall still excited on the prospect of having a kid myself。 Can't wait。 。。。more
Ghinwa Ayoub
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I enjoyed this book and learned a lot from it。 I have found it interesting even though I have no kids。
Justyna
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Ta książka daje mnóstwo nadziei i otwiera oczy na komunikację nie tylko z maluchami， ale też z sobą nawzajem。 Daje nadzieję， że można wiele razy się wkurzyć， stracić głowę， wystrzelać się z emocji。 Ale każda wygrana sytuacja to krok ku dobrej relacji。 Ta książka to zbiór narzędzi i przykładów， które można zastosować w praktyce。
Katherine Woo
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As it says in the book， parenting is an art， not a science - so I’m hoping I can successfully implement these strategies。。。 and add these to my long term parenting tool box。 I think the author probably overemphasizes some of these things so that parents will at least do SOME of these things。 Hoping that these are effective and that my child doesn’t become overcoddled。 Sound logic and great examples， let’s just hope it works。
Hailee
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I currently have an almost two year old who is very opinionated。 I call her my little boss。 I knew that even before she turned two I need some help。 A lot of these tools will be useful when her vocabulary increases but there are some great tools that I’ve started to implement already。 The book gives you different tools and then gives real life examples of them being used。 The stories are relatable and made me laugh and cry。 Parenting is NOT for the faint of heart。 I love this approach because it I currently have an almost two year old who is very opinionated。 I call her my little boss。 I knew that even before she turned two I need some help。 A lot of these tools will be useful when her vocabulary increases but there are some great tools that I’ve started to implement already。 The book gives you different tools and then gives real life examples of them being used。 The stories are relatable and made me laugh and cry。 Parenting is NOT for the faint of heart。 I love this approach because it gives kids the tools that they can use to navigate their big feelings and problem solve to find solutions to living with other people。 I avoid conflict but this book even helped me as an adult to see that acknowledging feelings （even negative ones） can help to come to mutual understanding （or tolerance） and work towards compromise that both people are happy with。 I feel like this book gives parents and little people the skills they need to be successful in life。 。。。more
Lindsay Maclachlan
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Underlined， notes in margin， dog-eared pages for my husband to read later （his suggestion）。。。 This book will be kept in a high traffic area so I can open it often and implement the steps when it's possible。 Almost immediately I found myself trying out their tips and saw results。 It also made me feel so much better about my parenting mishaps and that I am only human。 And doing my best。 Underlined， notes in margin， dog-eared pages for my husband to read later （his suggestion）。。。 This book will be kept in a high traffic area so I can open it often and implement the steps when it's possible。 Almost immediately I found myself trying out their tips and saw results。 It also made me feel so much better about my parenting mishaps and that I am only human。 And doing my best。 。。。more
Spencer Christiansen
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Full of practical （and memorable） advice and realistic stories from other parents。Some takeaways:1。 It's okay to express emotions， but some actions need to be limited。2。 Listen to feelings。3。 The problem-solving method sounds good。 It seems the hardest suggestion to implement， though。 Full of practical （and memorable） advice and realistic stories from other parents。Some takeaways:1。 It's okay to express emotions， but some actions need to be limited。2。 Listen to feelings。3。 The problem-solving method sounds good。 It seems the hardest suggestion to implement， though。 。。。more
Devon
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This is a must read for parents with young children。 It’s practical， quick to read （it has summary pages AND illustrations！）， has elaborations and examples， and you can deploy the advice as soon as you read it。 I loved that the recommendations were based on the same small set of rules regardless of the application。 I also loved that the same rules can basically be applied to adults， too。 For example， if someone is upset， you can’t always just acknowledge feelings。 Mirroring emotion conveys empat This is a must read for parents with young children。 It’s practical， quick to read （it has summary pages AND illustrations！）， has elaborations and examples， and you can deploy the advice as soon as you read it。 I loved that the recommendations were based on the same small set of rules regardless of the application。 I also loved that the same rules can basically be applied to adults， too。 For example， if someone is upset， you can’t always just acknowledge feelings。 Mirroring emotion conveys empathy， and avoids an annoying robotic response that doesn’t feel genuine。 。。。more
Rosa Sealy
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This book challenges the way I was raised， my society， and everything I know of parenting。 Allow the children to have a voice， make a decision， not get punished for bad behavior？！ At first what they suggest sounds crazy。 But do you want to be a dictator， or have kids who can make good decisions on their own？ Their methods limit codependency and fosters results。 I have this book 3。5 stars because the examples go on and on。 When situations don't apply to you， the book drags on。 This book challenges the way I was raised， my society， and everything I know of parenting。 Allow the children to have a voice， make a decision， not get punished for bad behavior？！ At first what they suggest sounds crazy。 But do you want to be a dictator， or have kids who can make good decisions on their own？ Their methods limit codependency and fosters results。 I have this book 3。5 stars because the examples go on and on。 When situations don't apply to you， the book drags on。 。。。more
Bryna Williams
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A book I will buy a physical copy of。I love 99% of this book。 Respecting children and treating them like people （and how we would hope others to treat us） seems obvious， but with their still developing brains sometimes this is easily forgotten in the heat of the moment。 This book helps to “personify” for lack of better words our small children that sometimes seem a little more animal than human！
Belinda Carvalho
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This book has been amazing for me really， it has really helped me to communicate more effectively with my pre-school age child。 I read it bit by bit， not intentionally but this was a great strategy as when I went back to it recently I was reminded of the techniques and could also see that I was already using some and they are working。
Ewa
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Konkret！
TJ
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3。5 stars。 I mostly agreed with the advice， but the parent examples were horrible （acting like it's commonplace to want to kill your children！？？？？） And a few of the techniques were a little extreme （i get the value in descriptive praise， but there's no reason you can't pair it with a "good job！" when deserved）I liked "No Drama Discipline" a lot more - covers most of the same territory but in （to me） a more relatable， caring， reasonable way。 3。5 stars。 I mostly agreed with the advice， but the parent examples were horrible （acting like it's commonplace to want to kill your children！？？？？） And a few of the techniques were a little extreme （i get the value in descriptive praise， but there's no reason you can't pair it with a "good job！" when deserved）I liked "No Drama Discipline" a lot more - covers most of the same territory but in （to me） a more relatable， caring， reasonable way。 。。。more
Aime
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Great tips。 Lots of info though and may need to break down each chapter and practice one tip at a time。
Jenny
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Chockfull of effective strategies。
Aneesa
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The best time to read this book is when your kid turns two。 The second best time to read it is now。。。 and every month for the next several years。 （Or just the end-of-chaper cartoon summaries if you don't have time！） The best time to read this book is when your kid turns two。 The second best time to read it is now。。。 and every month for the next several years。 （Or just the end-of-chaper cartoon summaries if you don't have time！） 。。。more
Robyn
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7 Mar 2021: parenting involves such ongoing problem-solving and development。 （I find myself wanting to say "professional development" here but that's not right - personal development？ human development？ or in millennial speak， "adulting" development？） Parenting alongside a pediatrician certainly made the first 2 years of developmental milestones easier to comprehend and lead/support （e。g。， tantrums， potty training！）。 We've also relied a lot on the Montessori approach for individualized learning 7 Mar 2021: parenting involves such ongoing problem-solving and development。 （I find myself wanting to say "professional development" here but that's not right - personal development？ human development？ or in millennial speak， "adulting" development？） Parenting alongside a pediatrician certainly made the first 2 years of developmental milestones easier to comprehend and lead/support （e。g。， tantrums， potty training！）。 We've also relied a lot on the Montessori approach for individualized learning and focusing his attention on specific activities。 Now， with a nearly 2。5-year-old， we need more tools :） This book was recommended in Rubin （2009）'s book on happiness and has pretty solid reviews overall， so I bought a copy。 It is a book of anecdotes and strategies that I anticipate will complement our current approaches - but we'll see！ The topics of part 2， chapters 1-4 （eating dinner， grocery shopping） closely align with things that currently interest this learner。 Let's see what Joanna and Julie can share from their multi-generational experiences thinking about parent-child communication。 。。。more
Kate McElfatrick
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I learned a lot of great tips about how to talk to kids in this book！ I do feel like the ages listed are a bit off; it’s more appropriate for 3-7 year olds （or older）。 2 y/o’s are too young to engage in a lot （if not most） of these tools， like problem-solving。 I would’ve appreciated more tips for that age group
Amy
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Good information and useful vignettes。 I actually used a couple of these to see if they would really work on my 3 year old and sure enough！ I do agree with some of the people in the book that state that although this way of speaking is effective， it does take much longer and deals with a lot of creativity。
Jean
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I tried the audiobook， but it was so boring and repetitive to listen to， so I bought a paperback copy。 I encourage that as you can simply flip around a bit once you get past reading the Toolbox part。 Honestly， I did all the "wrong" things with my kid and this book opened my eyes to some tools that worked so much better and actually prevented complete meltdowns。 They still happen， and there are some behaviors that I haven't been able to figure out how to work with， and some days I have no patienc I tried the audiobook， but it was so boring and repetitive to listen to， so I bought a paperback copy。 I encourage that as you can simply flip around a bit once you get past reading the Toolbox part。 Honestly， I did all the "wrong" things with my kid and this book opened my eyes to some tools that worked so much better and actually prevented complete meltdowns。 They still happen， and there are some behaviors that I haven't been able to figure out how to work with， and some days I have no patience and I act like a crazed momma， but overall I feel like it has helped to respond better to my child's emotions。 Actually， I think learning how to voice emotions has also helped me do the same。 I have given myself some "timeouts" to gather myself。 Highly recommend this book if you grew up being parented with spanking and "I told you so"。 I definitely still hear my mother coming out my voice， but I think this book has helped me learned how to communicate and listen to emotions more effectively。 Always a work in progress， so as long as I'm moving in the right direction， I'm good with it。 。。。more
Angie Dybas
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This is an excellent book！ I recommend getting an actual book so you can bookmark pages you want to use later。 This book is full of helpful tips， refreshers and recommendations。 I also really like the real life stories and how the tip was used。 I also like the variety of tips。 If something doesn’t work， there is always another plan b， c or d。 Must read for parents of small children。
The Book Squirrel
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I'm mostly enjoying listening to this （many of the principles I already know）， but I have to say I disagree with the solution of "child holding adult's sleeve" to cross the road。 We hold hands so that 1） the child can't run off into danger and 2） we can pull them in any direction out of danger in a millisecond。 The child holding the adult does not meet that safety criteria。I'd also add that not everything needs to be a "positive"。 It's perfectly fine to say "Don't throw sand" along with a why in I'm mostly enjoying listening to this （many of the principles I already know）， but I have to say I disagree with the solution of "child holding adult's sleeve" to cross the road。 We hold hands so that 1） the child can't run off into danger and 2） we can pull them in any direction out of danger in a millisecond。 The child holding the adult does not meet that safety criteria。I'd also add that not everything needs to be a "positive"。 It's perfectly fine to say "Don't throw sand" along with a why instead of the "positive": "Sand is for pouring and patting"。 Seriously， I'll be here all day if I have to list everything you CAN do with sand。 Instead， I'll say "Don't flick the sand out of the sandpit otherwise soon there won't be any to play with" or "Don't flick the sand because it can go in your eyes and you know how much that hurts" and we'll move on。Finished:While I do disagree with some of the things said， overall this book had some good tips and I would ABSOLUTELY recommend it to parents of all young children （understanding that， as the book itself says， not all strategies will resonate with all children all of the time）。 。。。more
Adrienne
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The only parenting book I liked enough to read the entire thing！ Total game-changer for life with toddlers。 I love the approach （validating feelings， encouraging cooperation through play）。 The real life stories were helpful and the summary list of tips at the end so great that I wrote them all down and keep them on my phone for easy reference。
Kristen McBee
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Solid examples of ways to connect with your kids。 I suggest starting with “No Drama Discipline” to build your foundation and for an abuse-free perspective （to clarify: this book does not advocate for spanking， but I don’t think they were emphatic enough about saying that hitting your children is not okay）。
Ani Darbinyan
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Around 90% of the "tools" of how to behave with the child we had already been applying in our family instinctively。 There was however a 10% useful information that we picked。 Overall interesting and unique style of writing （as though you're present on a parents workshop group with questions & answers）。 The authors， however， would have obtained more respect of mine if they didn't take parenting for granted and didn't suddenly discover after many months that their children have developmental delay Around 90% of the "tools" of how to behave with the child we had already been applying in our family instinctively。 There was however a 10% useful information that we picked。 Overall interesting and unique style of writing （as though you're present on a parents workshop group with questions & answers）。 The authors， however， would have obtained more respect of mine if they didn't take parenting for granted and didn't suddenly discover after many months that their children have developmental delays and only then to start working on their parental approach。 。。。more
Courtney Chappelear
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I don't have children and I don't work with children so my extent of utilizing these skills comes from the 2-5 times a week I hang out with my niece。 From what I can tell， this book is a wealth of knowledge。 Is it possible to remember all of the things all the time？ Probably not。 But it has been fairly easy for me to implement some of them during the few hours I spend with the kids in my life。The authors seem non-judgmental， which is important when you are reading a parenting book。I am excited t I don't have children and I don't work with children so my extent of utilizing these skills comes from the 2-5 times a week I hang out with my niece。 From what I can tell， this book is a wealth of knowledge。 Is it possible to remember all of the things all the time？ Probably not。 But it has been fairly easy for me to implement some of them during the few hours I spend with the kids in my life。The authors seem non-judgmental， which is important when you are reading a parenting book。I am excited to read this again in a few years when we have little kids， standby for another rating down the road。 。。。more
M-Kristine Mo
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Formidable lecture pour te sentir bien dans ton rôle de parent。 Réflexions qui ont beaucoup raisonné en moi et trucs très concrets！
Owen
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If you have a young child and you haven't yet read this book， stop reading this review and go get this book。 Great instruction and tons of real world examples make this book both educational and enjoyable。 If you have a young child and you haven't yet read this book， stop reading this review and go get this book。 Great instruction and tons of real world examples make this book both educational and enjoyable。 。。。more
Pedro
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